Anonymous asked: so this is the same thing that hits me every time i think I'm doing everything right in my life. i have hpv. and i think its getting worse. I've just recently got back with the love of my life. i think about how happy i am with her and then i remember i may have given her hpv. we had unprotected sex and i wasn't sure about my condition, but now i am. I've cried thinking about how she will feel if i tell her. but i know i need to. i don't want her to leave me. what can i do? please help. anything
If you had your doubts about your HPV status it may have been in your best interest continue having protected sex. However, I also know that spur of the moment lapses in judgement happen so you need to be strong as well as truthful.
Being completely honest will always be best solution (regardless of what others may say). If you lie, you’ll be caught in a lie, and that’s a much more difficult situation to deal with. Plus, no one likes a liar. You are way better off telling the truth in this case.
Would you want her to keep something like this from you? Probably not.
Telling someone is hard, because you never quite know where to begin. You’ve already had sex with her so perhaps starting from the point at which you realized you had a re-occurrence would be good. Explain to her that you were not entirely sure what was going on down there. You know, it could have been anything from a razor bump to a generic skin blemish. For instance, when a wart is beginning to form sometimes they’re not very easy to detect, or they form in a place that isn’t regularly touched or even visible.
Do your homework before you jump into telling her. Learn more about HPV, how it is transmitted, when it is transmitted, the longevity of the virus, and what the effects are (or can be depending on the strain). These facts can help you feel confident in what you’re telling your partner. It will also keep you from floundering for an answer to a question they have — and sometimes there are plenty of them.
Best of luck, sir. I do hope this situation works out in your favor… sound like you truly care for this person.